himglishandfemalese:

A central problem with our ongoing collective struggle with marriage, I think, but which is not often discussed, is the fact that it is a relationship that we have more agency over than any other close relationship in our lives. We choose to be with our partner, we don’t choose our parents, but then despite this agency, we tend to wish for the relationship to fit in to a particular paradigm of connubial-bliss-or-bust…

  6:40 am  |   August 11 2009   |  1 note   |  View comments